But I’m gonna start by talking about Rihanna.
Yes, Rihanna, the current bad girl of R&B/Pop or whatever you want to call it. I will get into my personal feelings about Rihanna later in another post, but suffice it to say I find her interesting and though some may disagree, multifaceted. That girl got some issues and some thangs going on! But she’s rich, young and pretty. Not to mention she was/is dating the most controversial Black man in R&B–Chris Brown. Although the two got their label of being controversial from their relationship with each other.
Anyway, back on topic. So we have Rihanna, getting beat down by her current man in a most horrific manner, taking naked pictures of herself and posting them on the internet regularly, and bringing us the most raunchy side of island music (which i love, by the way). Whether you think she can sing or not is irrelevant; she is out there and folks are buying her music and making her a hot commodity. Because of her notoriety, however, the media has labeled Rihanna a bit loose in the pants, you might say. A big deal is always made about who she is screwing on a regular basis. Which is par for the course these days. The media stays all up in celebrity uteruses and urethras. And they have often speculated on who she has been with and who may be next and is she back with Chris Brown. Or Matt Kemp. Or whomever. But really, we’re talking abt 5-6 dudes, and maybe a girl, as speculation runs rampant she gets busy with her best girlfriend. I just find it interesting how she is pretty much considered a hoe.
BUT WHAT ABOUT TAYLOR SWIFT?! She has had just as many if not more boyfriends than Rihanna! And not one media person has even hinted at calling her a hoe. Now, just yesterday, there was a Fox news story saying how fans are now getting tired of Taylor Swift serial dating in Hollywood. Serial Dating?! Really? That’s what they call white girls that date alot. Black girls are called hoes. Just another example of the double standard…in black and white. Check out the list below:
Rihanna: negus sealy (1st bf), chris brown, drake, ryan phillipe, ashton kutcher, matt kemp…then maybes andrew bynum, rashard lewis, wilmer valderrama, darren mcfadden. oh, and one date with shia labeouf.
Taylor: brandon borello (listed 1st), sam armstrong (non-celebrity), lucas till (video hoe), eddie redmayne, jake gyllenhaal, taylor lautner, joe jonas, john mayer, zac efron (although she denies it), cory montieth (glee) connor kennedy, harry styles.
Okay, so more than 5-6. But give or take 1 or 2, they have dated same number of dudes. And they are pretty close in age. So why does the all american blonde chick get a pass on promiscuity? At least Rihanna is open and honest abt her sexuality and antics. Taylor is still playing that “I’m so sweet and innocent” role. And sure, what do we know as spectators? We don’t really know what they are doing when all alone with their ‘dates’. Could be that they are really just dating and no sex is involved….riiiiiiiight. That tongue kissing she was doing with Connor Kennedy was pretty involved and suggested a familiarity that implies the full monty to me! Ditto with Taylor Lautner. I’m not a big Taylor Swift fan, so I didnt really see any other pics of her with these other dudes. But those two pics were proof enough for me to wonder.
So why? Why is the Black woman demonized as a slut and the white girl a serial dater? As much as folks like to pretend we are past race in this country (every country), this is a prime example of how racial stereotypes continue to exhibit themselves. There are several, but in particular, the Jezebel stereotype is the reason for the disparity. Check out the link below to go in depth
“The portrayal of black women as lascivious by nature is an enduring stereotype. The descriptive words associated with this stereotype are singular in their focus: seductive, alluring, worldly, beguiling, tempting, and lewd. Historically, white women, as a category, were portrayed as models of self-respect, self-control, and modesty – even sexual purity, but black women were often portrayed as innately promiscuous, even predatory. This depiction of black women is signified by the name Jezebel.“
There is a consensus when European explorers saw African women wearing almost no clothing (probably because it was hot as all get out), they assumed that the women must be irrepressibly sexual. Just because they had different customs, they were considered inferior and given negative connotations. Personally, I believe their loins is what made them think these women wanted sex from everyone they met, especially these pale scrawny white dudes…hence the Jezebel ideal was created so the explorers could indulge themselves and justify their actions. Whereas white women could do no wrong. White men needed their white women to keep pretending to be pure and virginial, even when they didn’t want to be. White women are human like us all, not an ideal to be put on a pedestal and never touched. American history is rife with stories of white women falsely Black men of rape and starting riots as a result. There are faithful white women and promiscuous white women (and women of every color, but I’m using b/w as I compare Rihanna to Taylor) which I would think we all realize now. And yet…the dichotomoy still exists.
So the same circumstances may apply to both women, but Rihanna will be slapped with the Jezebel whore label while Taylor Swift will still be considered an innocent, because she goes onto the Ellen show and blushes when confronted with a montage of her former lovers.
Let’s call a spade a spade. If Rihanna is a hoe, then Taylor Swift damn well is too.